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Do Cats Remember Who Their Mother Is? (and Vice Versa)

The answer to this question is a bit complicated. Cats do not have the same relationships between mothers and kittens as human parents do with babies. Cats are solitary animals. Their relationships don’t function the same as those of people, so their mother-child relationship is entirely different.

Therefore, cats don’t remember their mothers in the same way that humans do. The relationship just isn’t there.

Furthermore, cats use smell to identify each other. If mothers and kittens are never separated, they may continue to recognize each other. However, this doesn’t mean that cats will act affectionately. Once the kitten is about 10 to 12 weeks old, the mother will treat them like any other cat.

If the cats are separated, they will likely not recognize each other when they are reunited. After all, their smell will have changed, which will cause the cat’s “identity” to change.

Even if the cats aren’t separated, both of their scents will begin to change when the kittens are around 12 weeks old. Before then, the kittens spend their time in their nest, which causes them to develop a unique scent. After they stop spending so much time in their nest, this scent slowly fades, and the cats will adopt the scent of their environment. Eventually, it will change enough to prevent the cats from identifying each other as littermates.

However, some babies will stick around with their mothers into adulthood. This seems to be more likely for female kittens than male kittens, who often tend to roam a bit more. If the females continue to groom each other, their scents will stay similar and they will remain friendly. It largely depends on the temperament of the cats, though. Some felines will never get along with others, including their mother. Other cats may be easygoing and get along with just about everyone.

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Do Mother Cats Know Who Their Kittens Are?

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Various studies have been done on whether cats have an innate sense of who their kittens are. Most cats will accept any kitten that suckles on them. You can take kittens with different mothers and give them to the same mother cat, and she will typically accept them. Therefore, it is likely that cats don’t have a strong innate sense of which kittens are “theirs.” They take care of whatever kittens are in their nesting box.

That said, cats typically use smell to recognize other cats that they know. Kittens that spend time in a specific mother’s nesting box will usually be cared for by that mother, as they “smell” like her kittens. This is true even if the kittens aren’t biologically hers.

Therefore, the mother cat doesn’t seem to know which kittens she gave birth to. However, there is a sense of what kittens are “hers” based on which ones are in her nesting box and smell like it. If any of the kittens disappear, she is likely to notice and look for them. However, this isn’t always true. Sometimes, cats don’t realize that they have fewer kittens.

When the kittens grow, the mother may realize that they are her kittens if they are kept around and not separated. However, she won’t develop the same mother-child relationship that humans do. Cats typically don’t form “family” bonds.

How Long Does It Take for a Mother Cat to Forget Her Kittens?

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It depends on the situation. If the kittens grow up and are weaned, the mother will stop having the same relationship with them when they are around 12 weeks old. This doesn’t necessarily mean that she has forgotten them, only that she knows that she doesn’t need to take care of them anymore. She may even act slightly hostile to them in some situations, like when they lay in her favorite spot. She may retain a close relationship with some cats if she continues to groom them. Other times, she may act like she doesn’t know the kittens at all.

Of course, we don’t really know if the cat remembers her kittens or not, as we can’t ask her. She will stop having the same parenting relationship with them, though. Instead, she’ll often start treating them like regular cats, not kittens that she gave birth to. This is largely because cats don’t develop the same family relationships that humans do.

However, if the kittens have been removed from the mother for whatever reason before they are weaned, it is a different story. The mother will often try to look for her kittens and call to them. This can happen if the kittens die and their bodies are not left for the mother to mourn over or if the kittens are rehomed before they are properly weaned.

Either way, the mother will remember her kittens for a few days and continue to search for them. Eventually, she will give up. If the kittens are removed far before the weaning stage, this will take longer. If they are about 10 to 12 weeks old, though, some mother cats will only look for them for a few days before giving up.

Do Cats Remember Their Siblings?

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We can’t ask a cat if they remember their siblings, so there is no way to know if they genuinely remember them. However, cats often won’t treat their siblings any differently from normal cats. This is especially true if they were separated and then reunited. The cats will often act hostile or indifferent after being reunited, depending on their personality.

The one exception is if the kittens are kept together without any separation. Some kittens may continue to groom each other and cuddle after weaning. These kittens will continue to be friendly to each other due to their shared scent.

Do Cats Get Sad When Their Kittens Are Taken Away?

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There is no way to know how a mother cat feels after the removal of her kittens. We do know that most mothers don’t seem to mind much if the kittens have completed weaning. In fact, after 12 weeks, some mother cats may become hostile toward their kittens and somewhat annoyed with them. Some may continue to groom a few kittens and cuddle, typically with other females. However, this isn’t always the case and seems to depend on the mother cat’s personality.

If the mother typically gets along with other cats, she is less likely to be aggressive toward her kittens.

Either way, the mother is less likely to think of the kittens as “her” kittens after they have weaned at around 12 weeks. If the kittens are removed after this point, the mother cat probably won’t notice or care much. Having the mother yowl and look for her kittens usually doesn’t happen after they have been weaned.

If the kittens are taken away before they are weaned, though, it largely depends on the mother cat and the age of the kittens. Some first-time moms may not act distressed even if the kittens are taken away very young. She doesn’t exactly know how everything is supposed to work yet. However, other cats will act distressed for days if the kittens are taken away, even only a short time before they are completely weaned.

Typically, if the kittens are only 2-3 weeks old, the cat will act distressed for a long time after their removal. She may continue to look for them for weeks. If the kittens are removed closer to 12 weeks but before they are completely weaned, the mother cat will likely only be distressed for a few days.

It can be challenging to guess how long the mother cat may remain distressed. It depends mainly on the cat’s personality and other factors that we don’t completely understand. Some cats may not act distressed at all with one litter and then be highly distressed with another.

What Do Mothers Do With Dead Kittens?

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It is always a sad situation when a kitten dies. Often, it is due to no fault of the mother. Some kittens aren’t born strong enough to survive. It can be challenging to know what to do when a kitten dies. Do you let the mother see the body? Do you take it away, so it doesn’t upset her?

In a natural setting, most mothers will attempt to revive the kitten by licking it. Sometimes, this does work. But if there is something seriously wrong with the kitten, it won’t. This behavior is most common right after the kitten is born. If the kitten is a few days old, the mother may know that licking won’t help.

Once the kitten is dead, what the mother does may differ considerably. Some cats will eat their kitten, especially if it has just been born. This may provide the mother cat with nutrients, though you probably won’t want her to do this for obvious reasons. Sometimes, the cat may remove the kitten’s body from the box and leave it somewhere. Other times, she may carry it around and act distressed, like she’s trying to find a place to put it.

If the mother cat starts exhibiting any of these behaviors, it is likely okay to remove the kitten. She knows that it is dead and likely won’t miss it if it is removed. This will also allow her to focus on her alive kittens.

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Final Thoughts

Cats don’t develop the same family relationships that we do.  Even if a mother cat remembers that another cat was her kitten, she will likely treat them just like any other cat after 12 weeks. This may mean that the mother becomes aggressive, or she may continue to groom a few select kittens. It largely depends on the personality of the cat.

In the end, it doesn’t matter if cats remember each other. They don’t have the same relationships that we do and are unlikely to care that another cat was once their kitten.

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