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How to Calm a Scared Kitten (7 Proven Methods)

Bringing home a new cat is a magical time for you, but have you ever stopped to think about how it might appear to your kitten? After all, they’ve just been carried into a strange new environment by a giant, and they have no idea what might be in store for them next.

Your kitten may be frightened for other reasons too. Maybe they’re injured and have to go to the vet’s office, or there might be thunder or fireworks in the area. Regardless of the cause, it’s important that you can calm your cat down when necessary.

If you’re struggling to calm your kitten down, there are a few tried-and-true strategies that you can use to help them regain their composure. While every cat is different and what works for one may not be effective with another, these strategies should help you soothe your anxious kitten in no time.


Stay Calm Yourself

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Your cat will pick up on your energy levels, and if you’re nervous or jumpy, it will feed into their scared energy. It may not be easy to calm yourself down if you’re scared for good reason, but if you can, stay calm and composed while interacting with your cat.

This is especially important with your tone of voice. Speak in low, soothing tones, and don’t make too much noise. You want to impress upon them that you are not a threat.

Move slowly and deliberately as well. Fear is an instinctive response, and when larger animals move quickly, it often means that they’re trying to eat you. Don’t put those thoughts in your cat’s mind.

Of course, being calm isn’t an option if a terrified kitten sinks every one of their claws into your skin. To that end, you should protect yourself before seeing to your cat, as you’re more likely to make the situation worse if you end up getting injured.

Give Them Space

If you don’t have anywhere that you need to be with your cat, leave them alone. They’ll likely want to find a secure spot to curl up, and they can calm themselves down from there. They’ll reemerge when they’re ready.

You can still help them, though. Staying calm is important, and you may want to bring them food, water, or a blanket. If you have other animals or small children in the house, keep them away from the kitten until the cat’s in a better mood.

You may also want to provide them with things that have a reassuring scent on them. This could be your dirty clothes, a blanket that they’ve used for a long time, or in the case of a kitten, something with the mother’s scent on it.

Some people also swear by calming essential oils, but there’s little proof that they work. Still, it couldn’t hurt.

Also, we should clarify that you’re giving them emotional space here. They’ll likely do best in a confined area at first, like the bathroom, as that gives them a sense of security and enables them to quickly get a thorough understanding of their surroundings.

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Figure Out the Cause of the Fear

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In some cases, the cause will be readily apparent, but you won’t be able to do anything about it. This is the case with a cat that’s in a new environment, for example.

In others, you may never know what’s making your cat nervous. All you can do in those cases is wait it out and offer whatever support you can.

If, however, you know the cause and you can do something about it, then by all means, help out. If the cat’s scared of thunder, for example, you can try to soundproof a room as much as possible, turn on soothing white noise, or put them in a thunder shirt.

If the cat’s scared of someone or something (like the dog or a child), then you’ll have to figure out another solution. This could mean more socialization, or it could mean keeping the two separated as much as possible. In the worst-case scenario, you might have to re-home either the dog or cat.

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Offer Treats or Love

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If the kitten is new to your household, you can start to slowly introduce yourself after they’ve had time to get acclimated to your home. This could mean offering them food or treats and slowly approaching them and allowing them to sniff your hand.

Eventually, you can try to build up to offering them pets or other affection, but don’t rush it. If you move too quickly, you could scare them and undo all the goodwill that you’ve built up. Let them set the pace.

However, if you’ve had the cat for a while and they’re familiar with you, you can be more proactive about offering them love. Gentle, rhythmic stroking can help calm them.

You should especially focus on their chest area. Rubbing them in circles around their chest is extremely soothing, and it can help slow down a racing heartbeat.

Beyond that, it’s a good idea to have scratching posts around. Many cats will scratch to relieve stress, so giving them something to do can help release all that pent-up nervous energy.

Don’t Force Anything

If your cat decides to run away rather than accept your affection, let them go (assuming that they’re not running outside or somewhere else dangerous). They’re giving you a clear signal that they want to be left alone, so don’t follow them.

Don’t assume that because they’re rubbing up on you and purring, they want to be petted. Stay calm, don’t make any sudden moves, and continue to let them set the pace.

They’ll likely go to their secluded spot to regroup, and you should give them the space that they need. If they see you following behind them, they’ll assume that you’re being aggressive, and they might fear that you’re hungry for cat.

If your cat does go outside, chasing them is unlikely to be productive. You’re better off trying to lure them back with treats or simply noting where they go and waiting to get them once they’ve calmed down. Of course, this course of action will be less nerve-wracking if your cat is microchipped and has a collar with their info on it.

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Stick to a Routine

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Things that are familiar to us are unlikely to be scary, so you want to expose your cat to predictable behaviors as much as possible. This means feeding them at the same time every day, getting up at the same time, etc.

You don’t have to nail the times down to the second, but you should be in the general ballpark.

It’s especially helpful if you have some sort of visual or audio cue that denotes certain times. For example, if it’s time to play, you could go to the toy box, get a bell, and shake it. Dinnertime usually has its own natural cues; the sound of the can opener or the noise that you make rummaging around in the cabinet is all the signal that a hungry cat needs.

Get a Prescription

If you’ve tried everything and your cat is still a nervous Nelly, it might be time to talk to your doctor or a behaviorist. They can teach you other strategies for keeping your cat calm, or they might recommend putting them on a prescription for anxiety.

If it’s gotten to this point, your cat is probably a special case, so you should listen to whatever your vet is telling you rather than following advice on the internet.

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A Calm Cat Is a Happy Cat

While the phrase “scaredy cat” may have a place in our lexicon, there’s no reason that your cat needs to be frightened all the time. Using these strategies, you should be able to quickly calm your cat when they get nervous.

Not only will this make them happier, but it will also make them less likely to act impulsively. Impulsive cats have been known to do things like bolt out front doors or run into busy streets. You want your cat to be calm and happy, right there at home.

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