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My Cat Wants to Be Alone All of a Sudden – 8 Possible Reasons

Cats have a way of getting their alone time whether we want to give it to them or not. Whether your cat is highly affectionate and spends most of their time by your side or one of those cats that simply want your love on their terms, it’s easy for pet owners to notice when something is off with their beloved feline.

At times, your social kitty may want to be alone all of a sudden. When this happens, our pet-loving brains instantly go to thoughts of our pet hating us or them having a serious illness. That’s not always the case. If you aren’t sure what’s happening between you and your cat, or why it’s suddenly staring at you from the corner like you’ve done something horrendous, it’s time to start thinking back on every interaction the two of you have had. It could be the simplest thing or something you aren’t expecting.

Here are 8 possible reasons your cat may be avoiding interaction so you can ease your mind and try to fix the issue.


The 8 Reasons Why Your Cat May Want to Be Alone

1. Your Cat Is in a Bad Mood

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As we all know, cats are notorious for getting upset with us, for relatively no reason at all. Perhaps you missed their feeding time by a few minutes, didn’t notice when they strolled by and expected a pat, or you could have sneezed and startled them. No matter what took place in their area, when your kitty isn’t happy, you’ll know it. Steering clear of you during this time could be your cat’s way of showing you that it isn’t happy, or it could simply be your kitty’s opportunity to make you feel bad for whatever you’ve done!

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2. Your Cat Isn’t Feeling Well

Cats aren’t always as easy to read as a dog. When they aren’t feeling their best, some cats prefer to be alone and deal with what’s going on. This can happen with something as simple as an upset tummy from too much kibble or bigger issues that require a veterinarian visit. As a responsible pet parent, you must pay close attention to what’s happening with your kitty. If they are isolating themselves, don’t push yourself on them but look for other signs of illness to ensure they aren’t sick.

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3. Your Cat Isn’t Happy with a Change

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Cats are known for liking the status quo. You may share your space with the most affectionate cat around, but if something changes and they are having a hard time dealing with it, isolation may be their go-to. If you’ve recently moved, added a new pet to the home, rearranged the furniture, or perhaps you’ve been bringing new people over expect to see your cat react. This is common and in most situations ends as quickly as it started.

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4. Your Cat Is Aging

There are certain times in a cat’s life when they go through changes. It’s no different than a growing human. As a kitten, your cat may want to be with you all the time. During their “teenage” years, they may pull away a bit. Senior cats are also more likely to spend time on their own as well. They require more peace and quiet so they can get the rest they need. This is also true for cats who are nearing the end of their time with you. Isolation is very normal before a cat passes. Many feel it is their way of keeping you from seeing it happen.

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5. Your Cat’s Senses Are Deteriorating

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A cat uses their senses for everything. If they are having issues with their sight, hearing, or smell it’s going to cause them to act differently. Keep in mind that deteriorating senses don’t only happen in older cats. Your kitty could be suffering from an issue that only your vet can help out with. If you don’t feel like your cat is hearing you when you call or shows signs of worsening eyesight, plan a checkup as soon as possible.

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6. You Cat Senses Another Cat

It’s possible if your kitty is isolating itself, that another cat has been near your home. With their keen sense of smell, a cat doesn’t need to see another cat to know they’ve been around, they can smell them. This is especially true if an outside cat has sprayed around your home. When your kitty can’t find the elusive cat it smells, pulling away and isolating itself is normal. It could be waiting to face off with its new foe or trying to uncover why the other cat can’t be found.

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7. Your Cat Could be Depressed

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Unfortunately, like us humans, animals can be depressed. Things going on in your life like extended hours at work, a new relationship, or even a trip where your kitty was left behind with a pet sitter can leave your cat feeling unhappy. This is especially true if your cat is very affectionate and spends most of its time with you. When this happens, give your kitty time. Offer your love and affection, when they are ready, they will come back for it.

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8. Your Cat Is Ready to Give Birth

If your cat is pregnant, when she feels her body is ready to start the birthing process, she may begin to isolate. This is completely normal and shouldn’t cause you any worry. It’s your cat’s way of ensuring she and her kitten are safe and comfortable during birth. If you’re truly concerned, watch your cat and learn which spot she frequents so you can be there for her when the time comes.

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Trying to understand your cat may be difficult, but it’s something you should attempt as a responsible pet owner. While a cat suddenly deciding it wants to be alone can simply be a temper tantrum or pouting session from your kitty, other things could be at play. As always, carefully monitor your cat for signs they may need a veterinarian. If an illness isn’t the issue, simply give them the time and space they need. They’ll be back to demanding all your attention in no time.

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